I feel like i am standing at the road fork and i am not sure which route to take, which chance to take and should i even take it?! Life is all about taking chances. That leap of faith into the unknown. It terrifies us all, but where will we ever go in life if we don’t take a chance? The hardest part is finding a balance, knowing when to take the chance and when to take a step back. Knowing when to keep pushing forward in persistence versus when to just let go. It’s a balance of head and heart, of thoughts and feelings, of doing what’s “right” or doing what you “want/need” to do. It’s about not taking a chance and living with the regret that you’ll never know what might have been. Or taking the chance, risking it all, truly living life, and then accepting the often difficult path where that chance may lead. It is part of being a grown up human being, it is the other side of a medal, making decisions and choices, and standing strong when the results come in place.
“Pearls don’t lie on the seashore. If you want one, you must dive for it.” – Chinese proverb
There are too many people in this world who live mediocre lives because they simply avoid taking risks. At the same time successful people tend to be the biggest risk takers ever.
Bill Gates was taking a risk when he dropped out of college to start a business!
Galileo was taking a risk when he directly challenged the church by stating the earth revolved around the sun!
The founding fathers of the United States of America where all taking risks by signing their name on the Declaration of Independence!
The challenge is that if you do not take a chance, you will never know if something could have been… a relationship, an opportunity or other positive life change. Nothing happens until you take a risk and make a stance to go after what you believe in. You need to risk something, whether it be your money, reputation, or your beliefs in order to move forward in life.
The good news is while you may lose when taking risks there are 2 sides to every coin. You may also win by taking risks.
In fact, if you are consistently taking risks in life you will eventually come out ahead. It is inescapable, even if you are the most unlucky person with the lowest intelligence ever, you can’t lose everything that you go after.
Thomas Edison failed to create the light bulb 10,000 times before he succeeded! He only needed to succeed once to become one of the richest men in the country and one of the most famous inventors of all time.
Similarly, you only need to succeed once to start a new life for yourself. Think about that. If you are a singer, painter, actor, or whatever it may seem difficult to get discovered. But you only need to get discovered once to change your life.
If you know what you are doing and you go after your dreams you will probably end up falling flat on your face quite a few times. When you do and people criticize your mistakes it may seem that taking risks is not the way to get ahead and that you are better off playing it safe.
But for those who do not just play it safe and who keep taking chances (and for those who learn from their past mistakes) you will eventually have to come out ahead. Sometimes being right on one big risk can be all you need to change your life forever.
So, never forget to keep taking chances and keep learning from them. If you do then life is sure to be more entertaining and more worthwhile then if you just sit on the sidelines and watch others pass you by.
Discover your wants and needs…
- ask yourself what makes you happy
- decide where your responsibilities and commitments lie vs. your freedom to choose what you ‘want’
- decide what your priorities are – we all have desires, but how do they fit in with your priorities and responsibilities?
- think about your long term and short term desired outcomes and how taking certain chances can help you achieve those outcomes
No matter where we want to take a chance, relationship or dream, it is worth taking a chance, it is worth seeing if that is the best thing you could have done, and you will never have regrets! Imagine, if you want to be a Hollywood actor for example, you need to risk and take chances by sending out your resume, by trying to go to as many castings and taking every chance you get to get “discovered” – you only need ONE chance! and you can get it anytime, any moment, you might not even expect it and one little chance can turn out to be the best result ever, and make all your dreams come true. And in relationship, if you in love, if you feel in your heart that this is the best person for you – why not take a chance on them? Why not just listen to your heart and feel it, and act on that incredible feeling of love and just be with that person. No i am not talking about running off into a sunset with every pretty girl/boy, but everyone knows what i mean, everyone had that in their lives, but not everyone listened to their heart and took chance. Sometimes you just know “this person is for me”, you just know, but if we do not listen to our heart and start thinking and turning on logic and brain – yes we will never take a chance in love. Love is no logic, brain cannot apprehend what heart can, that is why we have both, sometimes we just have to listen to our heart and act only on it. if we turn on logic – it will kill it, it will break it brick by brick. Maybe logic is more developed in this age, but i love to listen to love stories of our grandparents where they followed their heart, took chances in love and stayed together for years to come… so maybe they were right, in the way they followed the path of love and took a gamble in life?!… They took chance in love, they followed their heart and soul, and they stayed together for lifetime, our generation – picks a perfect match – and the divorce rate is higher than ever…I believe we all have a chance in life and in love, but it is our choice to take that chance or to pass on it, and regret it every moment later in life. Life will pass, and other choices will come but the thought of regret and “what if…” will always be there…
“Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.”– T. S. Eliot
Creative risk taking is essential to success in any goal where the stakes are high. Thoughtless risks are destructive, of course, but perhaps even more wasteful is thoughtless caution which prompts inaction and promotes failure to seize opportunity. – Gary Ryan Blair
Because if you’re prepared and you know what it takes, it’s not a risk. You just have to figure out how to get there. There is always a way to get there. – Mark Cuban
The time to take counsel of your fears is before you make an important battle decision. That’s the time to listen to every fear you can imagine! When you have collected all the facts and fears and made your decision, turn off all your fears and go ahead! – General George S. Patton
Pitiful is the person who is afraid of taking risks. Perhaps this person will never be disappointed or disillusioned; perhaps she won’t suffer the way people do when they have a dream to follow. But when the person looks back-she will hear her heart – Paulo Coelho
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines, sail away from the safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. – Mark Twain
To be a good human being is to have a kind of openness to the world—an ability to trust uncertain things beyond your own control—that can lead you to be shattered in very extreme circumstances for which you were not to blame. That says something very important about the condition of the ethical life: that it is based on a trust in the uncertain and on a willingness to be exposed; it’s based on being more like a plant than like a jewel—something rather fragile, but whose very particular beauty is inseparable from that fragility. – Martha Nussbaum
The most important thing to remember is this: to be ready at any moment to give up what you are for what you might become. – W. E. B. Du Bois
Whatever you do, you need courage. Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising that tempt you to believe your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires some of the same courage that a soldier needs. Peace has its victories, but it takes brave men and women to win them. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
I always did something I was a little not ready to do. I think that’s how you grow. When there’s that moment of ‘Wow, I’m not really sure I can do this,’ and you push through those moments, that’s when you have a breakthrough. – Marissa Mayer
The universe has no restrictions. You place restrictions on the universe with your expectations. – Deepak Chopra
You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life. – Steve Jobs